I found this great article on Hitched.com by Dr. Michelle Gannon, a couples therapist in San Fransisco. The article is called “6 Research-Proven Habits for Healthy marriages” and what she had to say got me thinking about the famous book by Steven Covey, “The Seven Daily Habits of Highly Effective People.”
I thought it would be fun to use Dr. Gannon’s article to create a list of daily habits that can help us be happier and more romantic in our daily lives.
1. Say “I love you.”
This seems awfully simple, but I know that there have been days when I go to bed and realize that I never said those words to Ed that day.
Even if you don’t have time for romance, you still have time for a physical reminder of why you’re together and that can make romance much more likely another day. A caress, a quick neck rub, holding hands, whatever is most appropriate and most enjoyed.
Even if you’re right. especially if you’re right. Let your spouse know you’re sorry for the way they felt. It lets them know you care more about them than you do about being right.
4. Be your spouse’s biggest fan.
Encouragement from important people can be very valuable when your spouse is learning something new, trying to find a new job or making an important decision. Encouragement from you can be invaluable. Say something each day that lets your mate know you believe in them.
5. Say “thank you.”
Couples who have been married a long time have a hard time with this one. We know each other’s thoughts and intentions so well that we assume they know we’re grateful, especially for the little things. But hearing it still means an awful lot.
6. Shut up.
There are really some things better left unsaid. So the dress really does make her look heavy, his bald spot is showing more lately or that vase is ugly. Who cares? She’s beautiful, he’s a hottie and the vase was supposed to make you happy.
Even if you can’t be intimate or especially when you can’t be intimate. You know what worked when you were dating. Give them a little taste teach day. Ed and I have been married for over 20 years, but when he winks at me across the breakfast table, it still works.
I’d love to hear about any little things you guys do to inject that romantic feeling into the everyday!