In our last two posts, we’ve shared with you lifecoach Gina Visram’s “7 Olympic Inspired Lessons in Marriage.” We’ve enjoyed reading it and we’ve enjoyed putting together some of our own thoughts on Visram’s observations. In this last part of the three-part blog series, we want to share Visram’s last two lessons in marriage that were inspired by watching the Olympics.
1. Show your appreciation.
At times it can feel like “Thank You” are the two most underused words in the English language, and during London 2012, we were reminded that it doesn’t take much to show our appreciation for each other, yet it can result in something magical.”
We can’t agree more. Sometimes we forget to be appreciative to the most important person in our lives; our spouse. We tend to take it for granted that they know how much we value what they bring to our lives and the little things that they do to make us happy and keep the family going. However, knowing you’re appreciated is one thing, feeling appreciated is another and it’s essential. This week, make a point of saying “Thank you” to your mate for the little things they do, such as taking the kids to school, washing the dinner dishes or fixing the toilet. Thank them also for the big things, like working hard to provide for the family, compromising on vacation plans or forgiving you for an angry word.
2. Be yourself.
Anyone who watched the Olympic Opening and Closing Ceremonies of the London 2012 Games will recognize that both Directors didn’t hesitate to ‘be themselves’ — i.e. to present what they consider Great Britain to be, even if some may not understand or may consider it to be somewhat… [insert your own appropriate word here: weird, wacky, eccentric, etc]!”
Our spouses married us for who we were, but sometimes we tend to forget our true selves because we get wrapped up in trying to be who we think we should be. It’s essential to an exciting, passionate marriage that we remain two individuals bound together as one. By keeping our individuality, we remain interesting and exciting to our partners. Yes, sometimes our differences create problems, but no one wants to be married to themselves. Don’t be afraid to spend time apart, pursue separate interests or grow.
The Olympics was an inspiring, exciting event in many ways. It exemplified courage, tenacity and the power of dreaming big. Just like marriage. If there’s any pursuit that requires more heart, we don’t know what that is.