One thing that can really sabotage a marriage is the low self-esteem of one or both partners. Low self-esteem can drive you to jealousy or suspicion, which can create a real wedge between you and your spouse. Low self-esteem can also make you less interested in your intimate relationship and even more prone to having an affair to help you feel desirable or lovable.
Boosting your self-confidence can help save your marriage by making you a stronger and more focused partner. It can also help by making you that much more attractive to your spouse.
Take stock of your relationship as it is and identify the wonderful things that you are already experiencing, as well as concrete examples of things you would like to improve.”
Focusing on what is working well in your life and in your marriage can help you to not only have a better perspective on yourself, but also on the things in your marriage that are less than perfect. When we remind ourselves of what’s right, the things that are wrong aren’t as likely to get blown out of proportion.
Get in the present:
On a daily basis, take time for yourself to clear your mind and set your intention for how you will be in your relationship. Repeat positive affirmations that reinforce the feelings that you want to feel.”
This is an excellent tool to try for those who have a tendency to be their own worst critic. be sure to combat all of that negative internal criticism with at least one positive affirmation per day.
Clarity breeds confidence, while fear and doubt threaten your self-esteem. See yourself in the relationship of your dreams and imagine all you want is possible.”
Many of us with confidence issues have a tendency to imagine the worst scenarios for our marriages. Unfortunately, those imaginings can become self-fulfilling prophecies. Imagine your marriage in the best possible light, even if it doesn’t seem 100% realistic. It’s okay to daydream that your spouse is more romantic or that you have more time for intimacy or that you suddenly have the confidence of a goddess!
Read the full article to hear what the other tips are to great confidence in your marriage. Try a few of them over the next couple of weeks and see if they don’t help you gain the kind of confidence that can save your marriage and help you keep the right perspective on yourself, as well.