Okay, we’re oversimplifying a bit, but laughter and play have been shown to be integral to a happy marriage and a romantic and passionate one to boot. Laughter releases some of the same endorphins as passion does and it also relaxes couples and relives stress, allowing them to refocus their thoughts and energy on each other.
There are plenty of board games for couples and a number of sites on the internet where you can get some great ideas for ways to have fun playing together. We’ve found some excellent ones for you, but first we want to share our (road tested) favorite:
This is a game that was introduced to us as a way to improve marriage communication and we’ve passed it on to many other couples who have reported great results and great times.
First, each of you take a stack of index cards and write down twenty trivia questions for can be answered by either you or your partner. Be sure you keep your questions hidden.
This is not the time to ask anything controversial, so refrain from questions that might cause hurt feelings or arguments.
Some examples of good questions are:
- Tell me something you once did just to impress me?
- What’s my most ticklish spot?
- Name one thing in my closet that you’d like to burn.
Once you’ve each written your questions, shuffle and combine, then take turns drawing. You’re going to get some of your own questions and that’s fine. For each of you, half the questions will be things you want to know and half will be a complete surprise.
Keep it fun and light, but the answers should be things that will spark some fun marriage communication and give you some insight into your partner. The point is the conversation, but you can also keep score by seeing which of guesses more the other’s answers. You can dole out rewards like massages, an ice cream date, or taking out the trash.
You can find another Newlywed Game-type game from marriage therapist Dr. Randi Frederiks here. We’ve also found some excellent marriage communication games and other couples games online. A fun one to try is the 80’s Sitcom Couples trivia game at FunTrivia.com. This is one that keeps it light, but still has a couples theme and it’s a good one to use if you’d like to keep score and use rewards.
Try spending just one evening playing together. Laughter is a great way to improve marriage communication, foster some fun and also spark a little romance.