We’ve decided to declare this week “National Flirt With Your Spouse Week.”
a) Because we can.
b) Because we think flirting with your spouse is an extremely important aspect of a fun, romantic marriage.
c) Because we know that married couples seem to eventually forget to flirt with each other.
We realize that you might feel obvious and stupid when using the usual flirting techniques with someone you’ve been sleeping with for years. However, we’re pretty certain that the act of flirting will be fun and exciting for you and the results will brush away any self-consciousness. Flirting with a friend or stranger lets them know you’re interested, which makes them feel good. Flirting with your spouse lets them know you’re STILL interested, which makes them feel REALLY good.
For this post, we’ll focus on how to flirt with your wife. Frankly, guys usually need more help.
Women, on the other hand, seem to be genetically wired for flirting. However, we’ll devote tomorrow’s post to “How to Flirt With Your Husband”, just in case some of you ladies are out of practice.
One of the keys to flirting with your wife is subtlety. Women like a light touch when it comes to flirting, especially when it comes to, well, touch. Try a few of these tips this week, or go for broke and try them all, but don’t run through the whole list every hour on the hour. Remember, a little bit goes a long way and you want to keep it tantalizing.
1. Bring back the art of the wink.
I mentioned recently that when my husband winks at me, I still get all girly over it. I don’t know whatever happened to winking, but you guys need to utilize this handy tool. Ed likes to whip out a wink across a crowded room at parties and business functions, even a recent PTA meeting. It works every time.
2. Take the routine out of your goodbye kiss.
Married couples tend to fall into the habit of the routine, almost mindless goodbye kiss in the morning. Try this: Next time she leans in to give or get that peck, step back, pick up her hand and kiss it gently. Make eye contact immediately afterwards. If you’re feeling especially slick, throw in a wink. Nothing routine about that. I promise, she’ll be thinking about it all day.
3. The power of the “secret” touch.
Remember when the sneaky, surreptitious touch made you lose focus on anything and everything else around you? It still can. Instead of plopping your arm around your wife’s shoulders at a party, try dragging a finger up and down her spine a few times. Instead of just putting your hand on top of hers when having dinner with friends, trace a few curlicues along the top of her hand. To make the secret touch more effective, never make eye contact. Just keep talking to company, watching TV or whatever it is you’re doing. SHE’LL be focused on nothing but you, but you should play it very cool.
These are just a few seriously effective ways to let your wife know that she’s still flirt-worthy. You can get some more ideas at Discovery.com’s “5 Flirting Tips for Men“, which has some good advice on getting her attention with your attention. Have fun with it!