There are times when a couple has to be separated, whether for extended business trips, during a relocation or for other reasons. These can be tough times for even the strongest relationship. Long distance marriage, whether for a short period or an extended one, can take its toll on even a very healthy marriage.
We saw this article in the Montreal Gazette this weekend and found it so inspiring.
It’s a profile of Paralympic competitors Stefanie Reid and Brian Lakatos, who not only live on separate continents most of the time but compete for two different countries.
Lakatos is a 32-year-old paraplegic as a result of a hockey accident when he was six. He was raised in Quebec and lives part-time in Dallas and races his wheelchair for Canada.
Reid is a 27-year-old New Zealand-born, Ontario-raised, student who divides her time between Dallas and London, and is a single-leg amputee who runs for Great Britain, the birthplace of her parents. Four years ago, she won a bronze medal for Canada at the Beijing Olympics, but her husband encouraged her to switch to the British team because of better training and better opportunities.
We discussed it a lot and I was actually pushing her in that direction,” said Lakatos. “I thought it would be a good decision for her, just the training environment, the coaching, the high-performance centres, everything. It’s a great, great place for her . . . to get her in the best shape she can to have the best results.”
What a terrific example of allowing and even encouraging your spouse to do something that might take them away from you for a time, but will help them to pursue their dreams.
Reid and Lakatos are each other’s biggest fans and they support each other, as well as keep their romance strong, by making the most of technology.
Lakatos says they’ve managed to make the long-distance marriage work by ‘talking on the phone quite a bit, Skype and e-mail. And then when we get to spend time together, it’s great. Hopefully there’ll be more time for that after all the races are over’.”
We’re willing to bet that time will be well-spent. This is such an inspiring example of how a couple who is committed to each other and each other’s success can make a separation work and work beautifully.