One of the toughest things a spouse can go through is the suspicion that their partner is having an affair. Often, we’re so worried that we will miss the signs of cheating that we over-analyze everything they do and read things into their behavior that we shouldn’t. On the other hand, it’s important to know some of the more common signs of cheating so that you can take steps to protect your marriage from an affair.
Sheri and Bob Stritof are marriage counselors and the About.com Marriage Guides and they recently posted a blog called “Warning Signs of Cheating Spouses“.
Here’s what they had to share:
Nonverbal clues to lying can be difficult to spot and vary from individual to individual. The bottom line: If you think your spouse is lying, ask questions and ask for clarification if necessary. Trust your own intuition or that funny feeling you may feel inside.”
Here are some of the signs of cheating that they say you should look out for:
***Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.
***You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.
***There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship.
***You can’t get your spouse to communicate with you.
***Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.
***You notice charges on credit card statements that don’t make sense.
***Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.
***Your partner abandons religious faith.
***You feel as if you are being avoided.
***Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.
If you see more than one of these signs in your own marriage, it’s very important that you sit down and discuss the issue with your partner. If you’re not able to clear things up to your satisfaction or if things remain the same, you may need to seek counseling; alone if necessary.