Renewing your vows is a relatively new thing. It’s only in the last couple of decades that it’s become fairly common to celebrate a landmark anniversary by having a second wedding or a ceremony of some type that involves renewing your marriage vows. But it doesn’t have to be reserved for your fiftieth anniversary. Renewing your vows can be a great way to celebrate weathering a particularly difficult time in your marriage or just to mark a new chapter in your married life.
The super popular wedding site The Knot has a great piece explaining why people choose to renew their vows and answers several common questions that people have about how it’s done. Here are some of the key points.
Where Should You Renew Your Vows?
You can renew your vows in a house of worship, at home, on the beach, in a pretty garden or park, on a mountaintop, or on a cruise — basically, anywhere that has sentimental meaning for both of you.”
Who Performs the Ceremony?
Because a vow renewal is not a legally binding ceremony like a wedding is, virtually anyone you’d like can officiate at the ceremony: clergyperson, judge, your children, a close relative or even close friends. Perhaps the best man or maid of honor at the couple’s first wedding would like to take the honors.”
What Should the Ceremony Be Like?
You’ll exchange vows, recalling what you said when you were first married. It’s meaningful to write original vows, so you’ll be expressing exactly how you feel. This is an opportunity for both of you to really think about how you feel about your relationship, if the last time you exchanged vows was decades ago. After you’ve both spoken, exchange rings. These can be your original bands with new engravings (perhaps the date of your vow renewal or a cute quote like, “I Love You, Part II”) or new rings purchased expressly for the reaffirmation (a great time to upgrade those bands). Children, close relatives, and special friends can do readings, and you can have meaningful music playing, just as you would at a wedding ceremony.”
I think that renewing your vows is a beautiful and meaningful way to celebrate what your marriage is and to get it started on what it will become over the rest of your lifetime. It doesn’t have to be a huge, fancy affair and you don’t have to invite everyone you know. Like your first wedding, it should be whatever makes it most meaningful for the two of you. I really can’t think of a better way to renew your marriage than by starting at all over again!