The divorce rate continues to hover around the 50% mark. Half of the people who get married today will end up in divorce court. We see so many couples fighting for their marriage and trying to make their marriage work after infidelity or other serious issues. It bothers me (Cathy) to see the news stories on Kim Kardashian’s divorce after 72 hours of marriage. Now a new Huffington Post article says that the divorce, like the wedding, may be a televised affair.
Kardashian has gotten a great deal of backlash from the public, the media and other celebrities because of her supposed attempts to sell her brand by building up to a wedding and then filing for divorce 72 hours later. Many people feel it was all a lot of hype to snag viewers for the outrageously popular reality show that made Kim Kardashian famous.
Those same people suspect that the divorce is just another publicity stunt.
I don’t know Kim Kardashian. I don’t even watch her show. However, I can’t help wondering if the popularity of these stories, as well as programs like “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” is a sign of the value being placed on marriage. I should say, the value not being placed on marriage.
These reality shows claim to be about romance, but from what I can tell, they’re about drama. They aren’t about finding the love of your life, they’re about falling in and out of love in public and the time between the two is short.
If the people growing up on these shows grow up feeling that marriage is a temporary situation and one that can be entered into on a whim, then we’ll certainly see those divorce statistics rise.
Marriage can be awfully entertaining, but it isn’t entertainment.
Neither is infidelity or divorce. I’m not against reality shows by any means, but if we watch them, we need to make sure we keep ourselves in check. Are we becoming immune to the sadness we should feel about the end of a marriage? Are we starting to buy into the idea that it’s normal to be married two, three or more times-that we should expect to?
We also need to talk to our kids about the way marriage and divorce are portrayed on TV and in the movies today. Kids don’t start out thinking divorce is an accepted solution to boredom or differences, they learn that it is. Discussing and even watching these shows can be a good discussion starter about your family’s values and beliefs about the value of marriage.