Dr. Peggy Drexler, author, research psychologist and gender scholar, has a new article up on Huffington Post that may raise some carefully tweezed eyebrows. In her article, titled “The New Face of Infidelity“, Dr. Drexler shares that a new study shows women are increasingly likely to have an affair.
Infidelity can ruin a marriage for good, no matter how much a couple loves each other.
You can help save your marriage and protect it from infidelity by understanding why women are cheating more now than ever before.
According to Dr. Drexler, one of the most reliable studies on this issue is the General Social Survey, sponsored by the National Science Foundation. In the 2010 survey, 19 percent of men reported that they had been unfaithful during their marriages, down from 21 percent in 1991. But women who admitted having an affair increased from 11 percent in
1991 to 14 percent in 2010.
Another study from Indiana University, the Kinsey Institute and the University of Guelph found that 23-percent of men responding had an affair and 19-percent of women admitted cheating.
So why are women apparently cheating more?
In my own work as a psychologist and in my social circle, I see more women not only having affairs but actively seeking them out”, says Dr. Drexler. “Their reasons are familiar: validation of their attractiveness, emotional connection, appreciation, ego, not to mention the thrill of a shiny new relationship, unburdened by the long slog through the realities of coupledom.”
Other researchers say that the way entertainment media portray affairs as glamorous, expected or inevitable is also to blame and some say that the fact that more women travel on business can also be to blame. But Dr. Drexler’s list of reasons WHY women cheat is probably more important than the reasons why it’s happening more now.
If you’re a woman who feels at risk for having affair or you’re married to a woman who seems vulnerable, talk to your spouse or a trusted counselor. It’s much easier and less painful to prevent an affair than it is to rebuild your marriage AFTER an affair.